Get Tested!!

Written on January 27th, 2010

Today I want to tell you all about my friend Abdullahi.
Abdullahi is one of my neighbors in KJJ. I've known him since about my second day living here when he helped me fix my bike tire. He's a husband and father of five. He's active with the skills center, often comes to our literacy classes and is a self taught English speaker, he's never been to school.
All of this being said I don't usually spend that much time hanging out with 'Lai though wherever he sees me hes happy to see me and likewise. A few months ago when I came back to KJJ after finishing the HIV/AIDs bike trek he came by my compound and we were talking about the bike trek and some of the things we had taught the students about HIV. We talked a lot about how a very important way to protect yourself is to know your HIV status and to go for Voluntary Counseling and Testing (VCT) which is available for free in some health centers. At the end of our conversation he mentioned that he wanted to go get tested so he could know his status. I told him that I would support him as much as possible in going to get tested and we agreed that whenever he was ready I would go with him to Kerewan to get tested. After that, I got really busy with schools and holidays and Lai got busy in the fields. A few weeks ago however he approached me again about going and we made a plan to go today.
At 9 am Lai showed up in my compound dressed in a nice white complet and all ready to go to Kerewan. As we waited by the side of the road for a car we talked about some of the reasons AIDS is a problem in Africa/The Gambia and some of the things that have reduced the prevalence rate in the US--like condom use and people getting tested, both men and women.
Testing in the Gambia is a huge problem because of the high stigma associated with having HIV. All pregnant women are asked to go get tested as a means to counter mother to child transmission and therefore the majority of testing comes from pregnant women. Testing of men however is practically non-existent and for men to voluntarily go for testing is uncommon.
This is what makes Lai such a gem. He decided to go get tested on his own so that he could know because, "It's good to know about yourself." Once we got to the health center things were a breeze. I had met the man who does VCT coincidentally the week before so as always in the Gambia it was helpful to already have that relationship. It was a little nerve wracking going through the process with Lai and I could tell he was nervous also. I had to cover his eyes when they drew his blood and when they gave him his negative result we high 5'd and hugged--two things Gambians don't do. After it was all over Lai told me how happy he was to know his status and beyond that how he wanted to tell all his friend about his experience so they wouldn't be afraid to go get tested. Within two hours of being back in KJJ he had talked to three people who now want to get tested and just wanted me to call the doctor to make sure they had as easy a time as him.
I am so awestruck and humbled by the quiet determination of my friend. He has no reason to be so concerned about this other than he just wants to do the right thing and protect himself, his family and his village.
I sometimes would get the sense in America that people saw HIV testing as unnecessary, something for druggies and promiscuous young people, but if my experience with my friend Lai taught me anything its that we should all know our status if for no other reason than as a support to people around the world, like him, who are determined to fight stigma, raise awareness and live their life, without fear, with dignity and honesty. So I urge all of you to go get tested, know your status and think of my friend Lai who really is a shining example of courage and selflessness.